I remember in high school and college becoming physically sick about public speaking. To the point where I would accept lower grades just to get back to my comfort zone..which was not being in front of people. I went for perfection in the areas that I knew, and didn’t feel comfortable trying anything different.
I promised myself I would NEVER get in front of crowds after graduating. I would occasionally have to speak to small groups early in my career, and every time it would cause me to lose sleep and have an upset stomach.
I got to a point in my career about five years ago, where there were new promotions I could go after, but part of that would require me to get in front of mid-sized groups. I almost stayed where I was, because it was comfortable and easy and I almost gave up on ever getting over my fear. But instead, I went for it, scared as hell of failure, very anxious and certain I wouldn’t be “perfect” at it.
It was outside of my comfort zone, but I continued to practice, visibly shaking the first few times I had to present, lost a lot of sleep, practiced some more, but watched as the groups slowly started growing in size, so did my confidence and I found that it’s something I actually enjoy.
I have also found some deep breathing and yoga routines that help get me in the right mindset if I am feeling nervous or anxious. I currently present frequently to small to mid-sized groups, and it gets easier every time I do it.
Today, 5 years after making a professional and personal development goal of getting more comfortable with one of my biggest fears, something happened. I had my largest stage and largest audience to date. And I wasn’t nervous or anxious at all, but rather felt EXCITED and GRATEFUL for the opportunity. I didn’t even use the notes that I made for myself.
Making a long story longer. 🤷♀️
I definitely think this book had some impact on my mindset shift and highly recommend reading this, along with listening to Reshma Saujani’s TedTalk. Be brave, not perfect!!
What fear do you have that you’ve been able to overcome or that’s still holding you back today?